Relationships repeat — because patterns repeat.

“Why do I keep falling for the same type of person?” “Why do all my relationships end the same way?” “I love them, but I can’t be myself around them.” These sentences are no coincidence; they are a signal of your attachment equation.

According to the psychodynamic approach, relationship problems do not come only from “choosing the wrong person”; more often they come from the relational models we carry from childhood being re-enacted in our adult relationships. These patterns, which we live without noticing, even steer our choices.

What do I work on?

• Recurring relationship patterns — choosing the same type of person, living through the same conflict
• Attachment styles — insecure, avoidant and anxious-ambivalent attachment patterns
• Separation and grief — accepting the ending, letting go, forming bonds again
• Trust issues — after infidelity, wounds from the past, excessive suspicion
• Family relationships — the adult relationship with parents, setting boundaries, feelings of guilt
• Difficulty with closeness — avoiding attachment, emotional distance, the feeling of “not being enough for anyone”

My approach

I do not offer couples counseling but individual psychological counseling. The reason is this: relationship patterns often take root in a single person. When you work through your own side, the dynamic in your relationships changes too. What we do together is not to “fix” a partner from the outside — it is to see and transform the relationship equation within you.

Connection to family counseling

Many of our relationship patterns rest on the first models we learned in the family. If the roots of these difficulties also lie in relationships with parents, intergenerational patterns or boundaries within the family, you may also want to look at our family counseling page.